Action I Can Take Against Bullies
The first and most important action you should take when being bullied is to realise that it is not your fault. You did not ask to be the target of someone's anger, and you most definitely do not deserve what is happening to you. No person ever has the right to make you feel worthless or powerless. It is difficult, however, to stand up against your oppressor alone, and it is important to know that you are not alone in your struggle. Do not be afraid to reach out to your friends or family.
These are the people that love and know you best, and you should not be embarrassed to discuss this with them because, ten to one, they have probably been in a similar situation. If you do not feel comfortable talking to your family or friends or are unable to talk with them about being bullied because they are part of the problem, there are others in your community who can help you through this difficult time.
Below you will find action that can be taken against the person or persons bullying you. You may want to discuss with us on our confidential telephone or email helpline which is the best course of action for you and may involve one or more of the following.
- Legal action
- Compromise agreement or mediation
- Gathering evidence against them
- Finding other work
- Informing the authorities
- Finding a new place to live
- Joining an action group
- Getting support for yourself
For instance, you may wish to join an action group. An action group is a group of people who are in a similar situation as you where you may go and share your experience of being bullied and listen to how other members of the action group have dealt with their bullies. Action groups are great ways to find comfort and give you a good support base to help you face down your own oppressor, but most of all an action group lets you know you're not alone.
If you are unsure about sharing your experience with many people in an action group, then there are always more private routes you could take by getting support for yourself. If you want to get support, you may choose to go see a therapist. A therapist is also sworn to secrecy and is a great way to go because they are completely uninvolved with the situation they will listen to your side of the story and take care of your personal needs in an unbiased way.
However situations with bullies can vary greatly if your bully has crossed the line of just leaving you out to beating, hitting or hurting you in any physical form you immediately call the authorities. By calling the authorities right after being physically abused by your bully you are allowing them to see first-hand what you oppressor has done thus allowing them to take pictures and document everything that transpired.
Even if your bully doesn't physically hurt you but begins stalking you or harassing you such as calling at odd hours or sending you threatening emails you should still tell the authorities so they can document this information. You should also document the events that occur by recording the date and time and what happened, including keeping copies of any emails or written documents proving the bullying.
This evidence can be use against them if you take further legal action. In pursuing legal action, depending on the severity of what your bully has done to you, you may be able to get a restraining order meaning your bully is legally not allowed to be within a certain distance from you. If they do get any closer to you then their restraining order allows, they can go to prison. If the crime they committed towards you is more serious they can also be given a custodial sentence.
If you do not wish to take legal action you may choose mediation. In mediation you and your bully will talk with a mediator, an uninvolved party, and try to settle whatever it is that is causing your bully to hurt you and ultimately alleviate the issue with an agreement. This agreement could be similar to a restraining order where your bully agrees to not come within a certain distance from you, or you may agree to keep seeing a mediator or a therapist together until the issue is resolved.
If you wish to just be rid of your bully, but do not wish to have to interacted with that person or take legal action, because they are a relative or you just do not believe there is any way to solve the problem, you may wish to find a new place to live where your bully can no longer oppress you or, if it is in the workplace, you can asked to be transferred to a different branch of your job or quit entirely and find a new job.